Friday, August 31, 2012

Truth? You Can't Handle The Truth! ~R. Brabham~

I read the most interesting article in a back issue of Charleston Magazine. I usually absorb and repeat virtually every page to anyone that will listen, how this issue slipped by me, I don't know. I vaguely remember a leaf through. Author Harriet McLeod interviews Jack Hitt. Native Charlestonian, magazine writer, author and one-man stage storyteller. I won't re-write her incredible interview, but will hinge this story on his answer to her question concerning his new stage piece. Harriet asked Jack "Your piece is called Making Up The Truth, What do you mean by that? I was totally mesmerized by his take on cognitive research of truth. And I came upon this article at a good time. I was dealing with some issues of truths in my own life. As an overly optimistic person, I was questioning whether I have spun positive webs around areas in my life that are in sadly in need of repair. And what is the truth? A few clicks of my remote and I am ankle deep in reality shows, warring political networks and anti-this and anti-that groups. Everyone seems to have their own version of truth. But, we have to fall on one side or the other, right? When I started typing this out two things came to my mind. Peter Frampton's lyrics; Do you feel like we do. After playing the song and reading the lyrics, I quickly determined that what I believed to be truth in the 70's, is not truth for me today. Our only commonalities’ being that Peter and I have both experienced drastic losses of tresses. The first part of our Declaration of Independence. We hold these truths, to be self-evident. The definition of self is singular, your consciousness, of your own identity. The definition of evident, means clearly revealed to the mind. So, add on the We at the beginning and there are clearly groups of people who each singularly believe those truths. Which also means there has to be another group of people somewhere that doesn't believe this as truth. Collectively by starting with We, our country decided to go this way and forgo the differences in varying opinions of truth to fall on the side of majority, but never intending for majority to be absolute truth. A while back I ~friended~ a very interesting and talented person. I didn't agree with many of their philosophies, however they gave me insight into views I could pursue to find my own truth's. A facebook post recently stated that they wanted to give heads up that they would be de-friending anyone that liked a particular participant in our November presidential election process. They stated the reason as being "That they couldn't possibly have anything in common with someone that supported the views of that person. It bothered me, not because they believed differently than I, but because they couldn't comprehend that there are more truths than their own and are not able to accept that the two worlds co-exist together. I am forever grateful to the inventive trail blazers across our great country. Can you just imagine what the world would be like if their ideas and inventions were thwarted by their skin color, religious or political beliefs. I have never questioned the skin color of the first person to run hot water over coffee beans. Nor the political views of the first person to ferment wine by leaving the grape juice out too long. And I could care less what the sex was of the person who dropped the chocolate in the peanut butter and came up with Reece's Cups. I love them all. In our muddled world of political correctness and blurry lines drawn in the sand, I believe truth and opinion have cloned. I believe the old adage goes ~Opinions are like as....pirins..take two and call me in the morning~ , or something like that.

Thursday, August 23, 2012

Dance Like Nobody Is Watching (and Pray That They Aren't) | Charlestongrit.com | Bold. Smart. Local. Now. | Charleston, SC

Dance Like Nobody Is Watching (and Pray That They Aren't) | Charlestongrit.com | Bold. Smart. Local. Now. | Charleston, SC

Dance Like Nobody Is Watching & Pray That They Aren't


I worked a 13 1/2 hour day last week. At the end of the day I was with some very tired co-horts, the radio was still jamming in the establishment. We all looked lifeless, spent. Then,  the first chords of AC/DC ~You shook me all night long~ belted out. As tired as everyone was, head's started bobbing, booty's swayed and table tops turned into drums. I have a few years on these kiddo's so I was the one chair thumping. I can Pop Drop and Lock with the best of them, albeit my version is the literal dsecription of what would happen if I tried to perform it.  Music, the miracle cure, salve on weary souls, grown up lullaby's. Dance, the expression of my insides. Years ago I realized that you can no more dance and be unhappy at the same moment than you can blow Hubba Bubba bubbles while frowning.
Dancing was one of the first indicators that I was getting better after surgery. I shagged by myself to Van Morrison's Brown Eyed Girl with the frig door. My feet weren't always Happy Feet, there was a time when the music died.  I swayed and waxed philosophical on friends couches during the 70's to 8 -tracks of the Eagles, Pink Floyd. Danced my butt off in the 80's and early nineties. The club nights and house party's became fewer and farther between in the third millenium.  Slowly, the inside music died and Stella lost her groove. I tried to dance a few times around the house during my decade dry spell. It was the most pathetic non-rythmic display my mirror had ever witnessed.
Then one day, I was in a retail store browsing through the racks.  A song came on the piped music.  ~Under the Boardwalk, by the Drifters. My shoulders started first and the short waves traversed down to the dead dancing nerves in my feet. Soon my happy feet were shuffling unseen beneath the clothes racks. I was shagging. When I got home, I threw my packages down and you tubed some beach music.  I was cutting the rug to some old shag tunes and it felt sooooo good.  Over the next couple of month's Stella got her goove back.
Now, it might not be pretty. But, if the music's in me, it's going to come out.  A recent visit to my daughters had a room crying laughing as grandma held her own with grandaughter on ~Hey Ya~ by Outcast on the Wii Dance. I smile thinking of my Ya Ya's one Carolina summer eve on the back porch. My sister got up and started dancing by herself to the music on the IPOD, minutes later the other Ya Ya joined her, her husband looking inquisitively on from inside and shaking his head.
Dancing should come as natural as swatting mosquitoes here in Charleston. The south has spurned out a few classics.  Developed by Kathryn Wilson, the Charleston became a popular dance craze in the wider international community during the 1920s. Despite its origins, the Charleston is most frequently associated with flappers and speakeasies. Speakeasies were back alley bars that ran during the American Prohibition.Here, these young women would dance alone or together as a way of mocking the "drys," or citizens who supported the Prohibition amendment, as the Charleston was then considered quite immoral and provocative.
Jump up 20 years and flocks of kids are converging on the beach boardwalks of the Carolina's to do the Shag dance.  The Shag was designated as the official State Dance by Act Number 329 of 1984.
It's much more fun if you dance like no one is watching and praying that they weren't. I feel I may have startled a landscaper or two while throwing down near my patio window a few times. But, it's ok. Drive it like you stole it baby!
The photograph is of House Representative T.S. McMillan of Charleston watching on as flappers dance the Charleston with the Capitol building in background.  Credit: Library of Congress LC-US762-93721

Friday, August 17, 2012

First Day of School

 Renae Brabham 

This is the day I have dreamed of so much
 Shall it be coffee, tea or a long leisurely lunch?

 His first day of school, oh what a treasure 
The house to myself, such extreme pleasure! 

 Nothing to do, nowhere to rush I wonder, 
should I have sent his toothbrush? 

 I'll take a long bath, condition my hair
 Maybe tidy his room, while he isn't there

 This feels so good, just being alone
 Oh, look at his growth chart My, how he's grown!

 Hmmm…did I double tie his shoes?
 I bet he misses this Winnie the Pooh

 Maybe I'll go and watch TV
 Take a nap, read some Which will it be?

 That clock on the wall, it has to be broken
 It's only 12 o'clock You've got to be joking!

  I think I'll go ride
 maybe stop by the school

 Since I've got so much time
 and nothing to do

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

The Earth Moves For A Can Of SpaghettiO's | Charlestongrit.com | Bold. Smart. Local. Now. | Charleston, SC

The Earth Moves For A Can Of SpaghettiO's | Charlestongrit.com | Bold. Smart. Local. Now. | Charleston, SC

The Day The Earth Moved For A Can Of Spagettio's

When the days are full of blessings and everything is going my way, I can instantly claim control of the day. When the ground trembles around me, I realize that I have the control of a weak bladdered 6 year old on a car trip to Disney. There are thousands of instances that have sent me high tailing back to my creator. Faith, Hope, Love, Live , Laugh, Love. All are nice ~Wall~ words and plagues. But, when I am having a bad day you will not find me standing in front of words on a wall, staring at a refrigerator wall magnet or searching my cabinets for an inspirational coffee cup. You will find me searching comfort from examples of hope. And this is the one I go to. I will forever remember this day almost three years ago. It had been such a busy week. We were living out of and around boxes, tying up loose ends before we moved back to SC. I was finishing a few chores on the road. I took a detour slightly out of the way because of traffic. I notice a grocery store in a corner shopping center that I don't frequent but decided to go in to get a drink and a couple of Avocado's. I grabbed a big buggy and start carousing the store. I realize on aisle five that I already have the Avocado's and drink. What am I still browsing for? It's not like I am in my faves, Whole Foods or Publix, this is a small general chain. I slowly sauntered my way up front, weirdly out of it. Just as I was about to turn into the check out aisle, a young girl about 11 or 12 entered in front of me. I pushed in behind her. I look down at the buggy and realize how ridiculous I look with a big buggy pushing two avocados and a diet coke. Then, to my own amazement I get stupider. I begin to battle the small aisle to get in front of the buggy. "What the hell am I doing? Ok, I made it." Then I turn around to see that I left the drink and veggies in the little front compartment. I just need to go home and go to bed, I am a danger to myself today. Ok, now I have nothing to do but look ahead at the little girl. She places a can of Spagettio's on the counter. The clerk rings it up, the total is $1.33. The little girl timidly hands the clerk her store discount card. Now the total is $1.02. She slides a card through the credit card machine. The clerk leaned over and very quietly told her that the card is declined. The girl lowered her head in embarrassment and almost whispered "Can you put it back?" and turns to leave. I caught her arm and handed her the can of Spagettio's and motioned for the clerk to ring it up with my items. The little girl mouthed a soft "Thank you" and was gone. The nice clerk wanted to chat, but I was ready to hurry and get out of the store to find the little girl. I scanned the parking lot, I searched paths to the left and right of the store. I can't find her. I head for my car frustrated because I could have done more. Why didn't I just hand her some money? Why can't I find her? I was driving down the road still beating myself up over not helping her more. Immediately I felt the answer. (I) wasn't supposed to help her more. My creator showed me that (HE) takes care of his own. In the process I get a very humbling lesson. I immediately think of the story of Gideon and his army of thousands. He could have crushed the opposing army, but then the victory would have been boasted by man. He reduces Gideon's army to 300 and they annihilate the opponents. It was CLEARLY known by all that GOD was the champion of the battle. My visions of this little girl being helpless and hungry after she left were totally unwarranted. She would have another meal and she was in far more capable hands than mine. I am talking about a God that moved the world just a tad today, stopped time, created a traffic pattern and detour that led me to a grocery store that I didn't frequent, made stop lights a little longer or shorter, moved that inner consciousness of mine to get that big buggy and browse through the store like it was a brand new gift shop and finally made me fight that aisle to get to the front of that buggy so that I could actually see and hear what was going on. All to get a can of Spagettio's to a little girl. Confirmation that no matter what I think I am doing in this world ~I~ am not in control of even the smallest of matters. It makes me sad to think that sometimes I am so busy with life that I have let so many of these wonderful moments pass by unnoticed. Just for a nano second I felt like I peered through a peep hole into the otherworld. It is both powerful and humbling to realize in these times of angst that everything isn't just by coincidence.

Monday, August 6, 2012

What Kind Of Artist Am I? | Charlestongrit.com | Bold. Smart. Local. Now. | Charleston, SC

What Kind Of Artist Am I? | Charlestongrit.com | Bold. Smart. Local. Now. | Charleston, SC

Mixed Media, Mixed Message


Bricoleur:  As used in reference to visual arts, refers to a person who constructs or creates a work from a diverse range of things that happen to be available. I think the laymens' term for bricoleur would be crafty.  As I was choosing a category last week for the blog at CharlestonGrit.com,  I noticed that I always tend to use Mixed Messages. The story may first appear to have a clear and concise category, but by the time I put the period on it, it has run the gambit and I feel that I must use this indecisive category.
Words,my first love. For whatever reason, there were only two kinds of books in our house. A websters dictionary, a Bible and a set of childrens' Bible story books. I remember stating that I would read that dictionary and Bible from front to back and learn every word. I made it to the word aardvark in the dictionary and eventually to the last thin page of King James. I looked for words on objects everywhere. The first big words that I learned was King Edward. He was the dude on the cigar box my mom kept change in. The next was prndl, that's pronounced (purn-dul).  Yes-sir-ee, I was proud when I was able to explain to my mom what happened when my grandmother put the prndl stick into the wrong gear and backed into the tree. So, looks like my path might be forged right? Well, it might have been if not for my second grade art class.
The teacher, my first bricoleur taught me to open my eyes to forms of art all around me that i could use. "There are objects all around you that you can use to create, you just have to look for them." she told us. Nirvanah! Do you mean to tell me that my expression of self doesn't have to end when my tin box of paints dries up? We made Picasso inspired art collages with crushed and dyed egg shells along with 3D art on cardboard backing using beans, rice and noodles. I seriously have never had a boring day in my life again. Well, I thought I would try out this new world of mixed media.  Mom's birthday was  coming up. There's this pretty blue box in the bathroom under the sink, said Kotex. The box had a big white beautiful rose on it. I cut that bad boy into the shape of a card and pasted paper to the inside with a message. There was a small gathering for a birthday dinner that evening at my Aunt and Uncle's home. I brought the card out from behind my back at the kitchen table, a few audible gasp's and then laughs and nervous giggles. Their response was a little different than I had expected. Oh well, it was fun for me. The next week I made a card for my math teacher out of our Captain Crunch box. Mixed media even made it to the kitchen. I was making breakfast for my sister and brother one morning and decided to spice it up a little after reading Dr. Seuss. I cooked the eggs with green food coloring. That didn't go over too well.
The new genius spilled over into all areas of my life and although it doesn't get the accolades of a single defined art, mixed media definitely gets a response. I search in earnest for things that are otherwise deemmed useless and look for ways to give them a new life. Sticks become canes, shells sculpt into christmas tree's. Projects sit in every corner of my home for me to pick up. Some I have worked on for years, some I will need to go to prison to finish.
I used to long to be the person who, when asked, emphatically says "I am an artist."  Which leads to  the inebadable question, "What kind of artist are you?" to which their reply would be.  "Oh, I write,"  or " I'm a sculpture"  or "I'm a photographer."  Not anymore, my answer would have to be in earnest "Well, I am a ADD Mixed Message artist.  I write, paint floorcloths, make soap, perfumes, unusual  jewelry, mosaics, collages and weird handmade books."  Next year the list could be totally different. I am so grateful for that art teacher that expanded my horizon.